Babies are so zen.
Hanging out with them gives us an opportunity
to experience life in accordance with some of the tenets
of Buddhist thought, thinks I.
(Not that I am an expert in any way: I was raised a Catholic and most of my training and knowledge of religion is based on Judeo-Christian traditions.)
In the course of my professional work, however, I’ve been led to investigate what
is probably the “top layer” of some Eastern traditions.
I have discovered the value of being in the ‘now’,
letting go of expectations,
tuning in to what is rather than what might be,
or once was, or should be instead.
As I have worked with my clients to help them to develop new ways to cope with loss, depression and anxiety,
I have found many respond well to the experience of focusing on the breath, on being present, on letting go of agendas,
on staying with what is happening right here, in the moment.
Most find this really challenging at first, but with gentleness and practice,
it becomes easier and quite rewarding.
Little kids are wonderful teachers in this regard.
They give us a window into the practice
in a very sweet and simple way.
Small children are nothing but in the present.
It once took me a half hour to walk with my little friend Emma to the mailbox in front of her home: she stopped to investigate everything along the way.
And that was ok with me-- I found it so restful precisely because that was all I expected to do that morning: to be with
Emma and see what happened from moment to moment.
I think this is something that grandparents have
more luxury to experience with their grandchildren
than parents do with their children.
When I was a mom, I had the usual ‘other stuff’ to consider--
food for dinner, time to cook it,
getting to nursery school on time, and,
especially on the days I worked, getting everything done according to a very unforgiving clock.
With my grandson, and now with my granddaughter,
I have had the chance to slow right down,
let the present moment lead into the next,
and experience what it is like to simply “be.”
When that happens, I might feel tired at the end of the day, but it is a physical tiredness, not an emotional one.
The little ones have so much to teach us.....